YOU NEED TO T-A-L-K

Some couples find it difficult to have a meaningful conversation without quarrelling or disagreeing. This doesn’t have to be the case. If this is your situation, you can make a decision to change. First your mindset has to change and then you have to learn the behaviors that enable effective communication. Even the bible tells us to communicate effectively in Ephesians 4:29. So, here are 4 steps to help you

TALK.T – Tone and attitude influence how productive your conversation will be. If you come ready to talk with a defensive body language or a disinterested attitude, you’ve hampered effective communication from happening. An aggressive tone tends to send out ‘warfare’ vibes (Proverbs 15:1-2).  Avoid getting into a shouting match. An affectionate and calm demeanor will show that you are willing to have an amicable and productive conversation, which would leave you both satisfied with the outcome.

A – Affirm and appreciate. Affirm your love for each other. Affirm love with physical touch – it may just be holding of hands or a head resting on a shoulder while you talk. You’ll be surprised how helpful this could be when dealing with a challenging issue. Tense and distant body language mirrors what is going on in the mind; it would only sustain the tension hanging in the air. Appreciate each other too: if your conversation only consists of faultfinding, then you will both end up feeling bruised. Look at the situation objectively. What has your spouse or intended spouse done well in the circumstance that you can refer to? What do they normally do well that you can commend? Reminding them of what you love about them also adds a nice flavor (1 Peter 4:8, Proverbs 10:12).

L – Listen. Yes, listen without presumptions about what the other person will say. Listen with the intention of understanding the other person’s feelings behind their words.  Acknowledge what you have heard and ask questions to clarify what you feel you are hearing.

K – Kind words. ALWAYS, use kind words. Of what use are spiteful words? They inflame wounds. If in the heat of the moment, hurtful words tumble out of your mouth, quickly apologize; don’t justify those words! A heartfelt ‘sorry’ is an important word. Your partner isn’t stupid; they can read your undertones. They will know if your sorry isn’t heartfelt. Don’t use abusive words with each other. If you feel angry or provoked, let your words be calculated and say them calmly. Also, let your words be full of empathy and understanding.Use Colossians 4:6 as your watchword: Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. The very first scripture, Ephesians 4:29 tells us: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ministering grace to the hearer; that is the key. Each time you have a conversation, whether you are correcting, rebuking, etc., ask yourself, “Have I just ministered grace?”  May God give you the grace you need to T-A-L-K.Using words that minister grace, means that the Word of God must be dwelling in you. And for that to be the case you must be born again; you must have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. God would release abundant help upon you when you confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. That way, you will be saved. If you are ready to be saved, please say this prayer:  “Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I can’t help myself. Forgive me of my sins. From today, I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me. Now, I know I am born again.”Congratulations! I am so excited for you and look forward to your testimonies.

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MEDICAL NEWS TODAY

"I think music in itself is healing," American musician Billy Joel once said. "It's an explosive expression of humanity. It's something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we're from, everyone loves music." Most of us would wholeheartedly agree with this statement, and it is this universal bond with music that has led researchers across the globe to investigate its therapeutic potential.

"We have a such a deep connection to music because it is 'hardwired' in our brains and bodies," said Barbara Else.

We can all think of at least one song that, when we hear it, triggers an emotional response. It might be a song that accompanied the first dance at your wedding, for example, or a song that reminds you of a difficult break-up or the loss of a loved one.

"We have a such a deep connection to music because it is 'hardwired' in our brains and bodies," Barbara Else, senior advisor of policy and research at the American Music Therapy Association told Medical News Today. "The elements of music - rhythm, melody, etc. - are echoed in our physiology, functioning and being."

Given the deep connection we have with music, it is perhaps unsurprising that numerous studies have shown it can benefit our mental health. A 2011 study by researchers from McGill University in Canada found that listening to music increases the amount of dopamine produced in the brain - a mood-enhancing chemical, making it a feasible treatment for depression.

And earlier this year, MNT reported on a study published in The Lancet Psychiatry that suggested listening to hip-hop music - particularly that from Kendrick Lamar - may help individuals to understand mental health disorders.

But increasingly, researchers are finding that the health benefits of music may go beyond mental health, and as a result, some health experts are calling for music therapy to be more widely incorporated into health care settings.

In this Spotlight, we take a closer look at some of the potential health benefits of music and look at whether, for some conditions, music could be used to improve - or even replace - current treatment strategies.

Reducing pain and anxiety

Bob Marley once sang: "One good thing about music, when it hits you feel no pain." According to some studies, this statement may ring true.

Earlier this year, MNT reported on a study led by Brunel University in the UK that suggested music may reduce pain and anxiety for patients who have undergone surgery.

By analyzing 72 randomized controlled trials involving more than 7,000 patients who received surgery, researchers found those who were played music after their procedure reported feeling less pain and anxiety than those who did not listen to music, and they were also less likely to need pain medication.

This effect was even stronger for patients who got to choose the music they listened to. Talking to MNT, study leader Dr. Catharine Meads said:

"If music was a drug, it would be marketable. [...] Music is a noninvasive, safe, cheap intervention that should be available to everyone undergoing surgery."

This study is just one of many hailing music for its effects against pain. In March 2014, researchers from Denmark found music may be beneficial for patients with fibromyalgia - a disorder that causes muscle and joint pain and fatigue.

Listening to calm, relaxing, self-chosen music "reduced pain and increased functional mobility significantly" among 22 patients with fibromyalgia, according to the investigators.

But why does music appear to ease pain? While the exact mechanisms remain unclear, many researchers believe one reason is because listening to music triggers the release of opioids in the brain, the body's natural pain relievers.

Dr. Daniel Levitin, of McGill University in Canada, and colleagues talk about this theory in a 2013 review, citing research that found people experienced less pleasure from listening to their favorite song when given Naltrexone - a drug that blocks opioid signals - suggesting music induces the release of opioids to ease pain.

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IMPRESSION THAT TURNED DEPRESSION DOWN

Beloved, You may be trying to fix a situation that's not changing, but God may be using that situation to Fix YOU! Jonah was angry with God for having mercy on Nineveh, even though he received the same mercy when he was in the belly of the whale. It's interesting how Jonah could see the wickedness of Nineveh, but he couldn't see himself! He had a healthy perception of God, he knew that God was good, kind, merciful and full of compassion. He was counting on God's mercy, as if he were saying "I know you see me, but you're not going to do anything to me." Are you investing a lot of time and energy to change something that's not changing? Maybe God is using that very thing to change you, it's called Resistance Training! God wasn't using Jonah to fix Nineveh, He used Nineveh to fix Jonah!  (Jonah 4:1-11)

"Nothing creates a future like a revelation of who you are and what Jesus did for us. Therefore, anybody who is truly sold out to God will have a future without sweat. "Those who hook up to the word will control the affairs and destiny of the world.

You will supernaturally stand out in life. Daniel 11:32. You are the next in line for a dramatic change of level"

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IMPRESSION

A lot of us actually need the Holy Spirit to invade us.Bcos if He leaves with a choice we won't allow Him.So He will invade your space, take over your life.Like a mighty wind, He will take over your life, invadeevery space and take every thing over Him.You have been on the same spotTell Him to invade you.Don't even give me the chance to put myself together.Just rush meRush me Holy SpiritInvade meTake me overDon't give me time to thinkThat is the best prayer I can prayBcos sometimes my mind is there calculating and disturbingHis flowSo I can tell Him invade me, break Protocols for me, breakit.Come and invade meAm allowing you Holy SpiritTake over my spaceINVADE USINVADE MEWE NEED AN INVASIONI NEED AN INVASION

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CRUCIFY YOUR FLESH

CRUCIFY YOUR FLESH

Galatians 5:24 NKJV

[24] And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

To crucify your flesh means to refuse, to punish for good reason or to deny your flesh any temporary sinful pleasure. If you want to achieve greatness in life, and in the kingdom of God, you will have to learn the art of crucifying your flesh. Many dreams have failed, many business have collapsed, many careers were shipwrecked, because their owners could not crucify their flesh. Throughout your life, you are going to be faced with the choice between the immediate, temporary satisfaction of sinful pleasure, or the later, eternal reward of faithfulness. The reward for faithfulness has eternal pleasure. Crucifying your flesh can refer to sinful desires, drug addiction, food addiction, loose speech, sinful sexual desires and worldly pleasures. Your inability to crucify your flesh against such desires can ruin or destroy your good future. You have the ability to overcome and conquer any fleshly desire. You have greatness in you.

Declarations.

I am the righteousness of God, in Christ Jesus.

I have crucified my flesh, with its sinful desires.

I am faithful, and full of faith.

Prophetic Instructions.

Make up your mind to choose the eternal reward of faithfulness.

Be aware that crucifying your flesh means, there will be times when you will have to choose to do right against all your sinful burning passions.

Focus on your spiritual life, your studies, your business, your career and your future ahead, and refuse to fall into stagnation through temporary sinful pleasures.

Be aware, the pleasure in the reward for faithfulness is much greater than the temporary pleasures of sin.

Be aware, the pleasure of sin is a temporary satisfaction with an eternal consequence. The pleasures of faithfulness is a temporary inconvenience with an eternal satisfaction.

Crucify your flesh by choosing to do right, in the face of the strong desire to do wrong.

Meditate on the word, pray, listen to the word, study the word and speak the word everytime the enemy wants to draw you into sinful thoughts.

God might not sent an angel from heaven to take away all your sinful desires at once, but He will give you a way of escape and empower your to conquer, everytime you call upon His name. Keep resisting the devil and he will eventually flee from you.

Avoid friends and circumstances that will draw you back into your sinful past.

Walk in the Spirit and you will not fulfil the desires of the flesh.

As you start this day, pray earnestly in the Spirit and build yourself up in your most Holy faith.

Go out there today and be strong and courageous. Refuse to fall for any temptation. You are bold and victorious.

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